Ghost Teachers
When my kids ask me if I think ghosts are real, I always reply with "I hope not." Not because I'm afraid of ghosts, but because I think it would be horrible to be a ghost and I don't want to think that it's a possibility. I am intrigued, though, by the fact that so many cultures believe in ghosts and that those beliefs vary so widely.
There is a strong dichotomy between cultures which welcome ghosts as treasured family members and those that fear them. In China, for example, traditional families welcome ghosts as honored family members. In European cultures, on the other hand, ghosts are more often either feared as evil beings or pitied as people who cannot move on and accept their fates.
I wonder if this doesn't have a deeper significance. Chinese culture traditionally has deep roots in the past. Ancestors are honored and new choices and actions frequently reflect a reverence for the past and traditions. In this context, welcoming ghosts for their protection and wisdom makes sense.
European, and especially American, cultures fear getting stuck. The past is full of seeds destined to grow into a glorious future. Focusing too much on the past prevents us from nurturing those seeds and developing to our full potential. Therefore, European and American ghosts, when they aren't vengeful and angry, are tragic figures immobilized by sadness and regret. In literature, ghosts occasionally pass on wisdom or offer protection like the Asian ghosts, but more frequently they are looking for vengeance or trapped by regrets. They caution us to make peace with those around us so that we are free to grow and develop. Beyond the warnings, do you think they might have some wisdom to offer too?







